Arguing With Myself

My friends are likely gonna get a laugh out of this. I’ve apparently now reached the point where I’m arguing with myself. I guess it was bound to happen eventually. They probably won’t even be surprised.

I was getting ready for work this morning, and the quote that I mentioned in my post last night kept running through my head. The one by Joely Richardson, where she says “You grow up by making mistakes. I’ve made a ton of them, but as long as I keep on failing better, I don’t mind”.

I still believe that we all make mistakes. I would hate to think that I’m the only one. I also agree that mistakes can help us grow. Or at least sometimes.

It’s the last part of the quote that I’m struggling with today. “As long as I keep on failing better, I don’t mind”. I get what she’s saying. I really do. But now I’m thinking that I do mind after all. In fact, I mind a lot. What’s nagging at me is this – have I reached the point in my life where I have made so many mistakes that my goal now is to just keep failing better? How sad would that be? What kind of example would that be setting for my daughter? Or for my sons? What happened to being fearless?

A few years ago, I was at a very low point in my life when I had a business fail. A friend told me something during that time that I will never forget. He said that failure is an event, not the person. I believe that to be true. Failure is an event. Not the person. That’s a belief that I want to pass along to my children.

I’ve had a magnet on my refrigerator for years. It asks the question, “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”. I fell in love with that magnet the moment I saw it. When asked my favorite quote, I always use that one. It’s more the style of an unflinching optimist like me.

I’m not perfect. Far from it. I’ll admit that there aren’t many mistakes that I haven’t made. And I have no doubt that there are many more to come. But I hope that I never reach the point where I stop trying because I’m afraid of failing. And I hope that just failing better is never good enough. I want so much more.

And even I can’t argue with that.